…To Embrace Your Future
Since the beginning of this year, I have been a regular contributor to the Health & Wellness site mindbodygreen.com. It has been a very rewarding experience to share with and reach out to people throughout all corners of the world and to receive feedback about my work. I am so grateful to know that my humble thoughts, ideas and words have a positive impact on people.
By far my most popular contribution so far has been my article 10 Tips to Let Go of the Past and Embrace the Future – I believe that this topic resonates with people because it is a universal challenge…
We often find ourselves holding on to pieces of our past despite the fact that in reality they no longer exist and truly have no power or control over us – except of course the power and control, which we allow for them to hold.
With my upcoming workshop, I thought it timely to revisit this list of 10 tips… I believe that if we put these tips into action we will be well on our way to not only letting go of, but learning from our past in order to be present to each moment and fully embrace with faith and confidence our future.
I recognize that probably the biggest challenge is actually taking these tips from the page and applying them to our ‘real lives’ through action. This is my daily challenge and a challenge that I will pose to you today. I look forward to hearing how, and if these action items work for you and encourage you to share your progress, insights or challenges with me and other readers…
Let the letting go begin!
Here is my Top Ten Action list for letting go to get going:
1. Meditate. Find stillness, breathe. Meditation is action. Our mind is much harder to still than our body. Our lives are busy and fast paced, filled with external noise and distractions. Clarity comes from quiet. Meditation, even in small amounts, will make room for the next 9 steps.
2. Understand. Take time to reflect on your own history as a third party looking in without judgment: simply observe. Understand that you are not your past. Understand that the situations and patterns and people in your life created your experiences, they didn’t create you. Knowing and understanding your past and some of your patterns will help you to recognize why you hold on and repeat self-destructive behaviours. Understanding creates awareness; awareness helps you break the cycle.
3. Accept. Accept your history and the people that have been a part of your history; accept your circumstances and remember that none of these define you. Acceptance is the first step to letting go and setting yourself free. Learn from the monk in the story: carrying bitterness, anger or animosity burdens no one but you.
4. Empty your cup. Consciously and actively work at letting go of your story; your judgments and ideals, the material things, all your stuff. They have no real value. They do not make you stronger, healthier or more powerful, and belief in them is a delusion. Pour out your expectations of how, who, where and what you should be as they, too, are part of a story that holds you back from simply being. Once you let go of this story and empty your cup, your life purpose will open up and flow.
Take a moment (this will be our group activity during the upcoming Shift Happens Workshop
!) to write down the following:
i. Your core beliefs/values
ii. Your Life Goals
iii. The actions that you are taking to pursue those goals.
Now take an honest look at your core beliefs/values and determine whether or not they align with your goals and actions. If not, ask yourself: is it time to create new core beliefs, set new goals OR take new action? What actions must you take to align your actions with your beliefs in order to attain your goals. Write down 3 actions that you will take this week to get yourself moving.
6. Flex. It may seem paradoxical to detach from outcomes, yet set goals and work toward them. But if you are flexible — that is, willing to let go of the end result — aligning your goals and true purpose with the greater good is righteous action. Be flexible; allow the path to unfold as it will, opening up to opportunities. Flex and flow with the current of life.
7. Contribute. When you find yourself lamenting about your past or angry about your present or brooding about your future, find a way to making someone’s day better. Offering a smile to someone as you pass, opening a door, putting a bit of extra change in the parking meter, dropping off some food for the food bank: these simple actions can have lasting impact and help you to put your situation into perspective. Contributing to the well-being of others is the best way to align with your true self.
8. Believe in yourself. Believe in your purpose. Believe that the universe is unfolding as it should and that you have a divine roll to play. Believe that holding on does nothing in fact but hold you back from that purpose.
9. Love the process. Have fun. Be playful, cheerful and positive. Give power to positivity. Love yourself, love others and love this life. It is a gift to unwrap each and every day, to gaze upon with new and excited eyes.
10. Be grateful. Be true. Once you have taken all of these actions, just be.
Namaste my friends.