A note to my daughter (a note to all)
My daughter turns 16 years old today. Ummm, what?! When did that happen??
The years truly do go by in the blink of an eye. I wanted to write her a few words of guidance and although this letter began as something solely for her, as I reread it, I realized that it’s a letter for all of us ~ young, old, daughter, son, mother, father…human.
Take what you like, leave the rest behind…
A note to my daughter,
As you move through life, be kind to yourself. Like, really F’in kind.
Be as honest and real as you can be.
Take time to get to know YOU, your likes & dislikes, your interests & curiosities.
Know that life is full of surprises, countless ups & downs. None of it necessarily good or bad, just life.
Put the phone down. Turn off the TV.
Never hide from yourself, your passions, your dreams.
Don’t let anyone make you feel small or unworthy.
Your worth is not determined by any other human being – your worth is beyond measure, something no one can deplete – unless you let them – and even then you are still worth equally as much as every other being on this planet, in this universe.
No one can change that.
Learn to believe in your own unique value. Take time to discover your gifts.
They may be big and bold, they may be subtle and simple. They may make you famous, the may lead you to a quiet place in the woods.
As long as the doing of, the pursuing of these gifts makes your heart sing, helps you to FEEL more alive, they’re good. They’re true.
If you find that what you’re doing doesn’t sit right with you, doesn’t align with your values & visions, then stop. Take the time, always, to pause, reflect, assess and then consciously move forward following your own true north.
Go against the grain. Care less about what’s normal and more about what’s right. Less about what’s right and more about what’s kind – for yourself and others.
Understand, we are all going to die; the dying is inevitable.
It’s about the living; truly, fully LIVING is your choice.
YOU get to decide; will you follow along ~ allowing the media, schools, politics and policies to determine who and how you will be?
Don’t allow the world around you dictate who you should be. Remember who you are. YOU get to define you. No one else.
Keep working on discovering the beauty of you, your incredible self, without being wrapped up in anyone else. Just you – 1st ALWAYS. Know that putting yourself first is not selfish. It is wise. It’s necessary in order for you to give of yourself & share your unique gifts with others. Be kind, compassionate, patient and forgiving to yourself, so that you may be kind, compassionate, patient and forgiving for others.
The world needs you. The world needs your smile, your strengths, your unique gifts.
Live and LOVE big and know that you are loved, always.
The Universe (via your mom)